Saving is Invisible

Pride is a basic human instinct which can manifest itself in many ways. One way is the desire to signal that we’re smart, successful, and productive. We often feel compelled to treat ourselves and wear specific brands, drive a nicer car, wear a fancy watch, buy the newest gadgets, compete to have the largest TV, disproportionately show off our rare and nicest moments and travels on social media, etc.

Spending is Visible

Similarly, we also tend to associate the level of other’s prosperity with what we see them doing, wearing, and buying. If someone has a luxury car, big house, and buys expensive brands, we believe that they are successful. The truth is what we see people spend their money on tells us nothing about their level of success; it only tells us about their level of spending.

We share with the world when we have a special event or dine out and we pay attention to others who are doing the same. This isn’t really bad or wrong, but it does give us a disproportionate look at life. We see everyone’s best moments, and we share ours too leading to sometimes subconscious comparison and competition.

Comparison is the thief of joy – Theodore Roosevelt

The problem with our desire to treat ourselves or signal an elevated status is that it requires some kind of expense. By playing keep up with the Joneses we commit to a losing contest where we judge our success compared to other’s by looking at what we purchased.

A collection of expensive dress shoes.
A collection of expensive dress shoes.

Saving is Invisible

No one is taking selfies while making deposits. Saving and investing leads to a higher net worth and if that’s what the world sees as success then shouldn’t we all be saving everything, not spending it? The problem with saving the money is that your higher status is not evident to yourself and others. How would we modify our saving habits if we always knew the value of each other’s savings? Imagine if, in some kind of video game-esque reality, everyone had a bubble over their heads with their net worth always visible. People would almost certainly modify their behavior to maximize that number just like they act now to maximize likes on social media.

The biggest deterrent to saving is we don’t see each other do it.

A piggy bank. Value of fortune contained.
A piggy bank. Value of fortune contained unknown.

A Humble Middle Ground

Hording money can lead to problems as well. After all, the love of money is the root of all kinds of evil. However, we should make an effort to be self-aware and wise with our resources. We should realize when we’re envying status as well as when we’re loving money. Then make an effort to remain rational, which can be quite difficult when it comes to money.

Being frugal can mean choosing to appear to have less status in the world by taking a slightly more humble route. Keep driving that old car, wearing those generic brand jeans, and breaking down those worn shoes. Do the invisible, save to create real status. Buy things that deliver actual value rather than a perception or feeling of status.

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